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Sluts & Scholars is one of Cosmopolitan's "Hot Podcasts to Listen To." Nicoletta Heidegger is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#110256) and Sexologist. She chats with folks from across sexuality, kink, and professional spectrums about desire, pleasure, shame, stigma and (of course) bodily functions. 

Combining irreverence and expertise, on the docket is anything remotely related to sexual, reproductive and bodily autonomy; from the indigenous menstrual practices of the Hupa Valley tribe, to beauty confidence advice from Dita von Teese,  anal sex pro tips from Jessica Drake, and Cyberstalking with Amber Heard. Join these slutty scholars as they help to make your sex smarter, and your smarts sexier. 

Jun 1, 2023

This episode features Pam Shaffer. Pam is a Licensed Marriage and Family psychotherapist and the founder of Best Self Psych. She also hosts the Why Not Both Podcast and the newly launched NeuroProvocateurs podcast. We talk about how ADHD and neurodiversity can show up in sex and relationships as well as offer tools, tips, and education on things like Dopamine’s role in the body, sensory differences, what actually is neurotypical? Is anyone actually neurotypical?  This is a super honest conversation from two sex therapists who have ADHD.


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Past episode on ADHD

If you are interested in Pam's neurospicy coaching practice, join her Neuroprovocateurs substack where you will find her brand new podcast and neurospicy resources or head over to her group therapy practice, Best Self Psych, to find the right neurodiverse therapist for you. You can also binge her classic podcast Why Not Both, where she interviews guests like David Duchovny and Tori Amos about what it means to lead a multi-passionate life.

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Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show.